
When visiting people dying in hospice, I discovered the unexpected: life and forgiveness.
Cancer is not on the list of "how would you choose to die" scenario. What patients all said here, was that what they did have by having cancer was time to make amends and to heal past wounds or regrets with people in their lives.
Leslie B. contemplates what cancer has done to change his appearance yet he talks more about how he made peace with his past.
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Elvy Butler was one of Odell's good friends at Hospice.
Elvy said at first she didn't talk to Odell because Odell "didn't talk to no one". Which annoyed Elvy who decided that she would choose to keep being nice to her, to approach her every day. "I thought, well honey you ain't going nowhere so let's make the best of it"
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Elvy's philosophy is "do unto others as you would have others do unto you. If someone treats you nasty, you don't have to treat 'em nasty back. Treat 'em nice. Let God take care of the rest because he will".
Elvy gets her hair done by nurse Jennifer and they talk about Elvy's family outing to Atlantic City that past weekend.
While she has been in residence at Hospice Elvy has helped to reconnect her family to each other.
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"I was the meanest baddest person, I didn't care about no body...until I found out..."
Leslie had time to make ammends in his life, to reconnect to his children and sister. He said that if he were to have died in his sleep or been "hit by a bus" that he would have left wounds unhealed and that now, where and how it counts, he is a free man.
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How you face your life is how you will face your death.
The message from everyone at Hospice is why not be kind? Try being brave and apologize now. Forgive yourself and others and take care of your regrets.
See everyone and treat everyone as you would treat yourself, see everyone as you.
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